Stay True to Your Standard
Most of us dream of meeting our absolute soul mate. The person that will compliment our life and be our life long companion. We see it in the movies; we hear it on the radio, but the reality of finding this special person is not always easy. The search becomes long and arduous, and we become weary. After awhile, we are willing to compromise our standards of a mate.
It is not wise to compromise your standards for a mate. You are valuable, and deserving of the right type of person. Most single people have a wish list of desirable qualities. People of faith usually put faith at the top of their list. Now, sometimes people can be unrealistic about their standards. Perfection in any human being simply does not exist, so it is a good idea to take a honest look at the standards to determine the absolute deal breakers. However, impatience is not a good reason to start whittling down the list. Employment is certainly an important standard to have, but amazingly, people can get so desperate that they start compromising important standards.
Write a list of standards that are essential in a mate, and do not forsake this list. The wait may be hard and long, but you are truly worth the wait. If finding a compatible person seems to elude you, this is a good time to continue to work on you. Spend time developing yourself into the person that God created you to be. When you do meet someone and they do not meet an important standard, it is fine to move on. You should not feel obligated to squeeze yourself into a bad fitting relationship. It will not be good, and you will end up regretting it. Furthermore, you are wasting the person's time and your valuable time. That is not good stewardship. It is important to be gracious and courageous in the dating process.
In conclusion, there is a great mate out there for you. Recognizing this fabulous person is the key. Although being single is sometimes hard, you should use your singleness wisely. Develop the friendships that you currently have. Continue to pursue your career and any passions that you have. It is so important to not put your life on hold waiting for that special person to come along. Most importantly, do not settle for anything less than what you deserve. The old cliché that good things come to those who wait is still true. Whatever you do, do not settle.
Tags: self esteem, soulmates, truth
Filed under: Relationships
