Tips For Christian Singles Seeking Soul Mates Online

April 26th, 2010

Tips For Christian Singles Seeking Soul Mates Online

Christian singles seeking soul mates on-line may find themselves lost in a virtual sea of Internet dating sites. Lucky for those seeking mates, today’s web-based matchmakers are becoming specialists, narrowing down the fields of interest and bringing those previously unlucky in love together. With yesterday’s stigma of on-line dating disappearing rapidly, finding “The One” may be easier than you think! Here are some tips to help you determine if you are ready to take the next step in on-line dating, and a few to help you navigate the course once you’re ready.

Are you ready to start dating? Being sure you’re ready for a new relationship can be tricky, especially if you’re just coming out of a previous romance. Make sure you’ve given yourself enough time and distance from the old relationship. You’ll also want to be sure you’ve properly dealt with any lingering feelings of anger, resentment, sadness, or guilt will go a long way in helping you see a potential new relationship in a positive light.

How’s your self confidence? Loving yourself and feeling good about who you are puts those around you at ease, and makes it easier for them to focus on your strengths instead of your faults. This is harder to do when we’ve suffered a particularly bad break in the relationship department, but it’s worth reminding yourself that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. God loves you and you worthy of the love you’re seeking. When you’re filling out your on-line profile, be careful to remain positive when describing yourself. Be honest and talk about your strengths and the things you like about yourself. If you need to, put pen to paper and make a list. If you have a hard time with this, ask a friend or family member for help.

What’s your body language like? Have you thought about the way your body language comes across to those around you? Taking inventory of the placement of your hands and feet during your day to day conversations can give you a clue. The way your body responds to your environment can convey the wrong message if you are not mindful. This will be important when it comes time to meet potential mates in person. Facing away from the person you are talking to, crossing your arms and/or legs, avoiding eye contact – these are all signs that can show disinterest or a closed-off personality. Be engaging, smile, and make eye contact!

Keep a your sense of humour! Remember that finding a like-minded soul mate will take some time and is not likely to happen overnight. Taking yourself too seriously or letting desperation sink in will likely turn off those who show interest in you. Relax and don’t forget your sense of humour when seeking your soul mate on-line. Remember that God made us all unique and some of us are a bit more unique than others! It helps not to take things too seriously, too quickly. As with relationships off-line, you’ll want to let your on-line relationships grow at a natural, unhurried pace. Get to know any potential mates over time, and don’t rush things, even when you seem to really connect right away.

Don’t be defeated by rejection. Brush off rejection and move on. This is perhaps one of the most important points to remember. In the world of on-line matchmaking, there is a great opportunity for a Christian seeking a soul mate. Wherever there is great opportunity for success, there naturally has to be opportunity for rejection. Remind yourself that each rejection is God’s way of telling you it wasn’t the mate you were looking for. The sooner you acknowledge the pain of rejection, the sooner you can deal with it, brush it off, and move forward to the next opportunity!