Christian Dating: Having a fun first date

November 25th, 2009

Christian Dating: Having a fun first date

So you’ve been chatting to a fellow Christian online for days or even weeks, and the time has finally come to meet up. While arranging a first date can seem like a stressful experience, it doesn’t have to be that way. A first date can open the door to an exciting new chapter of your life, so try to relax and have fun.

Where to Go and What to Do?

Choosing where to go for your first date can seem like a minefield. Luckily, there are plenty of great options for a fun first date.

Choose somewhere that isn’t too intimate, but gives you the chance to talk and get to know each other. Perhaps there’s a Christian café in your local area, or nice park to take a gentle stroll? Other ideas include a visit to a gallery or museum, ice skating or even bowling.

Anything that involves a big expense is best avoided; save the expensive dinners and theatre outings for a later date. While church outings and activities might seem like a good idea, these are best left until you and your date get to know each other better. Inviting someone to your home on the first date probably isn’t a good idea either; although your intentions might be perfectly innocent, they could be taken the wrong way.

Get Talking

If you’re nervous about chatting to your date face-to-face, try to think of a few easy conversation topics before your date. A great thing about meeting online is you already have the chance to get to know your date by exchanging messages before you meet up.

Given that you’ve met on a Christian dating website, your shared faith is an area of common ground so should provide plenty of opportunities for conversation. Try talking about your personal beliefs and goals; this can help ensure you’re both on the same page before you even think about starting a relationship.

Ending the Date

As your date draws to an end, you´ll usually have a good idea of whether or not you´d like to see your date again. Ending the date needn’t lead to awkward moments; as you both share the same commitment to the Christian faith, there should be no pressure to kiss or get intimate. A friendly hug or kiss on the cheek should be all that’s needed to let your date know you had a good time.

It’s always a good idea to get in touch with your date the following day to check they arrived home safely and thank them for a good time. If you´d like to see them again, this is also the time to suggest a follow-up date! Sending a message by email or text removes the pressure of making a phone call, or why not use the private messaging service to drop them a line.