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People fear the unfamiliar and when coupled with a race other than our own, there are cultural things that take getting used to. Not only is there the fear of the things that are unfamiliar, there is the fear of imposing our ways on another. This is the basics of interracial relationships without the more vehement emotions that some human beings express. The vulgar and obscene spewing of those who hold racial hatred in their hearts need to be changed at the core of their being before any progress toward healing could be made.

In an interracial relationship colours will be a point of issue as long as the couple is together. Though the two may have resolved every single issue concerning their so-called differences, those around them never will in entirety. Each new social situation such as a new colleagues, new boss, new neighbour and new friend poses the chance of having to rehash old stuff that the couple wants to put behind them. The best thing to do is to have a matter-of-fact way of showing the world that each of them is involved with a person of another colour. Do it with love and leave the anger to those hotheaded racists that most definitely still exist.

Children of an interracial relationship are usually okay until their teen years. Racist comments are not confined to just one colour of people. Interracial couples will go through times experiencing outright racism from friends and family of both colours. Children will be made fun of to one degree or another. There is not a 100% way of sheltering them from the comments. It will come to them a little bit or a whole lot depending on each circumstance.

Couples and their children became hardened to the looks and whispers. They may have had to face physical aggression at one time or another because of humans who are not friends or family with them. Some have even had to face it from family. Rather than being hardened over time as to what may come, it is far better to work out a strategic plan to overcome the ignorance with a superior mindset and strength.

Learn the places to always avoid. They exist even for non-interracial couples. In hoping to be free, some interracial couples seek to push beyond boundaries where it is evident they are not welcome. Unless both are martyrs, it is not wise to pursue forcing their way into the lives of those who hold racial hatred. Yes, in an ideal world we all would be free from threat of harm. However, that is not the case for any of us no matter what our colour is. Never let love fade because of the colour of the package that houses the God-breathed living soul. Search and find where love can be lived out with joy. Let those in the darkness of racism stay where they are and continue their hate from afar.

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Christian singles seeking soul mates on-line may find themselves lost in a virtual sea of Internet dating sites. Lucky for those seeking mates, today’s web-based matchmakers are becoming specialists, narrowing down the fields of interest and bringing those previously unlucky in love together. With yesterday’s stigma of on-line dating disappearing rapidly, finding “The One” may be easier than you think! Here are some tips to help you determine if you are ready to take the next step in on-line dating, and a few to help you navigate the course once you’re ready.

Are you ready to start dating? Being sure you’re ready for a new relationship can be tricky, especially if you’re just coming out of a previous romance. Make sure you’ve given yourself enough time and distance from the old relationship. You’ll also want to be sure you’ve properly dealt with any lingering feelings of anger, resentment, sadness, or guilt will go a long way in helping you see a potential new relationship in a positive light.

How’s your self confidence? Loving yourself and feeling good about who you are puts those around you at ease, and makes it easier for them to focus on your strengths instead of your faults. This is harder to do when we’ve suffered a particularly bad break in the relationship department, but it’s worth reminding yourself that you are fearfully and wonderfully made. God loves you and you worthy of the love you’re seeking. When you’re filling out your on-line profile, be careful to remain positive when describing yourself. Be honest and talk about your strengths and the things you like about yourself. If you need to, put pen to paper and make a list. If you have a hard time with this, ask a friend or family member for help.

What’s your body language like? Have you thought about the way your body language comes across to those around you? Taking inventory of the placement of your hands and feet during your day to day conversations can give you a clue. The way your body responds to your environment can convey the wrong message if you are not mindful. This will be important when it comes time to meet potential mates in person. Facing away from the person you are talking to, crossing your arms and/or legs, avoiding eye contact – these are all signs that can show disinterest or a closed-off personality. Be engaging, smile, and make eye contact!

Keep a your sense of humour! Remember that finding a like-minded soul mate will take some time and is not likely to happen overnight. Taking yourself too seriously or letting desperation sink in will likely turn off those who show interest in you. Relax and don’t forget your sense of humour when seeking your soul mate on-line. Remember that God made us all unique and some of us are a bit more unique than others! It helps not to take things too seriously, too quickly. As with relationships off-line, you’ll want to let your on-line relationships grow at a natural, unhurried pace. Get to know any potential mates over time, and don’t rush things, even when you seem to really connect right away.

Don’t be defeated by rejection. Brush off rejection and move on. This is perhaps one of the most important points to remember. In the world of on-line matchmaking, there is a great opportunity for a Christian seeking a soul mate. Wherever there is great opportunity for success, there naturally has to be opportunity for rejection. Remind yourself that each rejection is God’s way of telling you it wasn’t the mate you were looking for. The sooner you acknowledge the pain of rejection, the sooner you can deal with it, brush it off, and move forward to the next opportunity!

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The uproar over posters for an online dating site promoting affairs for married people shows the importance of finding the right place to seek a like-minded Christian partner.

The Advertising Standards Authority (ASA) ruled the poster as ‘inoffensive’ after receiving hundreds of protests over the “Marital Affair” posters in London screaming out ‘instant excitement’ for ‘bored housewives looking for a bit on the side’.

The poster also depicted a topless man carrying a bra on his shoulder. Some protesters set up a Facebook group to try and force the ASA in to a change of mind.

Whether the advertising is offensive to individual Christians is a matter for them, but the fact is the incident shows signing up for some online dating sites can lead to an unpleasant experience.

The big, one-size-fits-all sites do their best to be all things to all people, but the fact is their drive for paying members to satisfy shareholders means the screening system is bound to let people a Christian just doesn’t want to meet slip through.

To give a Christian a good chance to find eligible single partners is a niche web site like Online dating Bible.

* Big membership numbers and lots of visitors to the site don’t necessarily mean everything. With a site like Online Dating Bible, Christian singles are getting quality not quantity.

* Site traffic and the membership list may be smaller than those general dating sites that advertise in magazines and on TV, but we look after our members by providing them with a more bespoke service.

* Because we screen profiles and our premium services attract a small fee, you can be reasonably sure that only Christian singles are checking out your profile. Of course, the occasional fraud slips through, but nothing like the numbers that do in the mass dating sites.

* Even Christian is a broad term and as everyone is aware, beliefs can vary enormously – just let a Mormon, Catholic and Presbyterian debate their faiths.

The way online dating works is many people often try out a big site and then realise it’s not for them or doesn’t offer the opportunities to meet like-minded people that they really want.

Then, they try and narrow down their choices to smaller sites offering a more tailored service.

If you have tried out online dating and it didn’t work for you on a big site, then if you are a Christian, the Online Bible Dating may just be what you are looking for.

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As a Christian, celebrating Valentine’s Day might not be the thing for you, but February gives you and your partner other chances to spend time together.

After Valentine’s Day passes on February 14, the new week brings Shrove Tuesday (February 16) and the start of on Lent on Ash Wednesday (February 17).

Shrove Tuesday, or Pancake Day, is a great day for fun in the kitchen, as the day is the eve of Lent and traditionally the night when family and friends feast together to use up all the food in the cupboards before the abstinence of Lent.

During Lent there are many foods that some Christians – historically and today – would not eat, like meat, fats, eggs, and milky foods, which is why pancakes are on the menu for the day.

Ash Wednesday is the day Christians were marked with ashes from burned crosses of the previous Palm Sunday as a mark of sorrow.

Pancake Day is a chance for fun and frolics

If you and your loved one have strong faith, then no doubt you will respect these days.

Although Lent is all about self-reflection and abstinence, there’s no reason Shrove Tuesday should not stand for a little fun as Lent takes us soberly along to Easter.

Many Christians have a dilemma between their faith and their partners that is highlighted at this time of the year.

If your partner does not worship with you, that does not make either of you good or bad, just different, providing you have that respect for the other’s beliefs and point of view.

Dilemma over your faith should not be any more of an issue than your partner’s choice of spending time with friends or at an activity they enjoy.

That’s really the spice of life – having different views and belief but a common love for each other.

For a modern Christian with a soul mate who respects their partner’s faith, taking some time out to say ‘love you’ should not raise any dilemma.

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Christians may well find themselves in conflict over Valentine’s Day.

Faith leads them to believe in loving each other and God, but Valentine’s Day is a day of loving and giving tinged with commercialism.

So what is the best way for Christian singles to approach Valentine’s Day?

Just pretending not to notice is not the way. After all, St Valentine, whoever he might have been from the three traditional choices, is a Christian saint.

The meaning of St Valentine that is a day devoted to one you love also follows the Christian way.

The Roman Catholic Church first celebrated Valentine’s Day about 465AD and even then had no idea of whether Valentine was one man or an amalgam of legends about several men.

Spend quality time rather than money on gifts

Now, a Church of England survey showed that out of 1,000 men and women, 90% of us would prefer to spend quality time with a partner rather than an indulgent gift.

A Valentine’s Day prayer was also written for special contemplation for singles in relationships for National Marriage Week (February 8 – February 14) that is arranged to cover Valentine’s Day.

The full prayer is:

Valentine’s Day Prayer

Loving God, on this Valentine’s Day, 
we might give gifts like flowers or cards, 
or look forward to the romance of a meal out, but the joy of sharing in these things is our time together.

We thank you, Lord, for the time we will spend together today, and every day. And in that precious time, we pray our love will grow stronger and deeper. 
Remind us today to cherish each other, And to value the way our commitment inspires and supports all those around us.

Forgive us, Lord, when we have hurt one another, hurt other people, or hurt you.

Help us, Lord, in the ups and downs of life, to be faithful to one another, 
and to you.

So with grateful and loving hearts, 
we entrust this day and each other, into your hands, through Jesus Christ our Lord.

Amen


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It’s Romeo and Juliet all over again – you have fallen for another Christian single online but don’t know what to do because they are a different denomination.

Life’s like that, throwing spanners in the works just when you everything is going fine.

But people are people whatever their beliefs and although we all like to think we are in control and our minds rule our hearts, that’s not always the case.

The problem is not always how you and your partner may have a differing religious background and beliefs – say you are Church of England and your partner is a Catholic.

On the surface, you are both Christian and believe the Bible, but some fundamental building blocks of your faiths are way apart. As individuals who have a love and respect for each other, left alone you may be able to work this out. It’s when families and friends became involved that these small differences become yawning chasms.

Many times, friendships and romances between compatible and reasonable partners have failed because of pressure from third parties.

The solution depends on the individuals involved and the strength of your feelings for each other.

After all, the Bible is all about love, respect and understanding for all faiths, not just for those with common beliefs.

Love is fragile and needs tending and caring to grow.

If you have that relationship with someone, then any reasonable friend or loved one would encourage you to follow your heart and work out a way to overcome differences of faith.

After all, the Bible gives us free will and that’s precisely what makes us human.

It would seem a shame that if you had a chance to exercise that free will, that you turned away from your heart because of pressure from others.

Too many, that would seem to go against the Christian doctrine of any denomination and any priest or Christian who advised someone to give up a chance of true love and happiness on the basis of a particular church’s interpretation of the same book would seem harsh indeed.

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Christmas is coming – and that means carol singing, midnight mass and celebrations with family and friends.

All these Christmas events give single Christians a chance to meet new friends and get to know old friends a little better.

So many single Christians enjoy Christmas and the joy it brings but worry too much about how they appear to others.

All sorts of thoughts run through the mind … he or she is nice, should I talk to them? What will the others think? Does he or she like me or will I be rejected.

Well, none of these thoughts matter, because the fear of striking up a relationship is all in the mind.

The biggest relationship fear is fear itself

People are not scared of a snarling dog; it’s the thought in their mind of what could happen if that dog approached them that causes fright.

That means all your doubts and fears about a relationship are in your mind and if you can conquer those fears and just be yourself, you will have an easier time breaking the ice with other singles.

Just remember everyone has the same thoughts of self-doubt, especially if they have been hurt in other relationships.

Christmas is a time to praise and celebrate a wonderful occasion, but no one will mind if you meet a soul mate – good, caring Christian people should be happy for you.

Just remember that single Christians may have a code of behaviour and beliefs that often leads them to believe their ability to interact is restricted, but at the bottom of it all, Christians are people with the hopes and needs like everyone else.

A peck on the cheek is just flirty fun

So just remember a peck on the cheek under the mistletoe is just a bit of flirty fun and only has a meaning if someone gives one.

Just act towards others as you expect them to act towards you and you may find that taking away the fear may lead to making some new friends or even a sweet romance.

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Churches quite rightly preach the virtues of love; marriage and the family and Christians are urged to have meaningful relationships with others.

The problem is finding someone with a similar lifestyle and beliefs for a relationship as a single Christian.

Relationships come on many levels – friendship, companionship and the intimacy of marriage.

Belonging to a congregation can provide a lot of the social interaction an individual may need, but the size of the church can place limits on your opportunities for deeper relationships with other eligible singles.

That’s why online Christian dating services like this are becoming so popular.

Online dating replaces the matchmaker

Often back in the day, the church or town might have a matchmaker, who eased introductions. Online dating services are just a step further adding technology to the concept. The online service takes the place of the matchmaker creating the environment for safe and controlled introductions.

In this cosmopolitan society, an online dating site also removes what can be the first awkward obstacle to a relationship for Christians – religious beliefs.

As a registered member, you generally have to pay a subscription to access the full site facilities, and it’s unlikely many non-Christians are going to pay out to join for whatever mischief is on their mind.

So you can be confident that the person you are chatting with will have Christian beliefs that match your own.

A safe haven for apprehensive singles

Christian online dating is a safe haven for single people frightened or apprehensive of the online dating experience. You can control who, how and when others can contact you and because the site should have an administrator or moderator who acts as a ‘watchdog’ to help members with problems.

Finding a partner is not guaranteed, but joining a site greatly increases the chances. Instead of the few eligible Christian singles within travelling distance of your home as a pool of relationship candidates, you now have access to men and women all over the world.

Many sites have clubs with clubs, like special groups for black or Asian Christians or groups for particular denominations like Presbyterians or Catholics.

In fact, the internet brings a big boost to the Christian faith by allowing the message to spread to a wider audience and by allowing those with Christian beliefs to reach out across the world to likeminded souls.

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So you’ve been chatting to a fellow Christian online for days or even weeks, and the time has finally come to meet up. While arranging a first date can seem like a stressful experience, it doesn’t have to be that way. A first date can open the door to an exciting new chapter of your life, so try to relax and have fun.

Where to Go and What to Do?

Choosing where to go for your first date can seem like a minefield. Luckily, there are plenty of great options for a fun first date.

Choose somewhere that isn’t too intimate, but gives you the chance to talk and get to know each other. Perhaps there’s a Christian café in your local area, or nice park to take a gentle stroll? Other ideas include a visit to a gallery or museum, ice skating or even bowling.

Anything that involves a big expense is best avoided; save the expensive dinners and theatre outings for a later date. While church outings and activities might seem like a good idea, these are best left until you and your date get to know each other better. Inviting someone to your home on the first date probably isn’t a good idea either; although your intentions might be perfectly innocent, they could be taken the wrong way.

Get Talking

If you’re nervous about chatting to your date face-to-face, try to think of a few easy conversation topics before your date. A great thing about meeting online is you already have the chance to get to know your date by exchanging messages before you meet up.

Given that you’ve met on a Christian dating website, your shared faith is an area of common ground so should provide plenty of opportunities for conversation. Try talking about your personal beliefs and goals; this can help ensure you’re both on the same page before you even think about starting a relationship.

Ending the Date

As your date draws to an end, you´ll usually have a good idea of whether or not you´d like to see your date again. Ending the date needn’t lead to awkward moments; as you both share the same commitment to the Christian faith, there should be no pressure to kiss or get intimate. A friendly hug or kiss on the cheek should be all that’s needed to let your date know you had a good time.

It’s always a good idea to get in touch with your date the following day to check they arrived home safely and thank them for a good time. If you´d like to see them again, this is also the time to suggest a follow-up date! Sending a message by email or text removes the pressure of making a phone call, or why not use the private messaging service to drop them a line.

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Finding a new partner or friend with a similar outlook and interests can be difficult at the best of times. If you’re a practising Christian, finding the right match can be even trickier.

If your church or social circle doesn’t present immediate opportunities, meeting people with shared spiritual beliefs can seem like an impossible task.

Online dating is no longer a taboo, with millions of people of all ages and faiths now using Internet dating services making it easy to meet new people wherever you are in the world.

Whether you’re hoping to meet a new life partner or simply to make new friends, here are some tips to get you started with online dating.

Choose the Right Service

Faith is not something many people tend to discuss with people they don’t know, so finding potential partners with similar beliefs can prove difficult with traditional dating services.

When you register with a dedicated Christian online dating website like Online Dating Bible, you’ve already crossed the first hurdle. As everyone registered on the website shares the same faith, there’s no need for guessing games or awkward conversations further down the line.

Get Ready

Perhaps you’ve been alone for a long time, or would like to meet a new companion after the loss of a partner. Whatever your reasons for our online dating service, getting into the right frame of mind before you start can improve your chances of success.

Try to think about what you want to achieve from your online dating experience before you start your search. Being honest with yourself about what you’re looking for can save you time and energy, as well as increase your chances of finding the right match.

Present Yourself

Specialist Christian online dating services provide the perfect platform to present you to single people with similar interests and beliefs as yourself. So to make sure you don’t waste the opportunity, give your online dating profile some thought before diving in.

Decide what the most important things are for you to put across; what are your key qualities, and what type of person would you like to meet? Using an online profile coach can be a great source of inspiration if you need some help.

Have Fun

Last but definitely not least, always remember that online dating should be fun! The great thing about online dating websites is that there’s always a pool of men and women just waiting to here from you, so try not to get disheartened if things don’t always go to plan.

So enjoy getting to know new people using online messaging and live chat services and remain open to the possibilities that friendship can bring.

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